In many women, sexual desire is temporarily diminished and they suffer from loss of libido. The causes are manifold. Many women know the feeling: The physical desire decreases and the desire for sexuality is lost – temporarily or even over a longer period of time.
What used to be associated with passion and feelings of happiness is increasingly becoming a burden. Despite their “loss of pleasure“, the women affected often miss intimacy with their partner and even worry about their relationship.
Right at the beginning: A decrease in sexual desire says nothing about the quality of the partnership. Also in stable and happy relationships it can happen, even quite often, that one of the partners feels at times less desire. As long as both are satisfied with the situation, this is completely okay. However, if one of the partners feels uncomfortable, for example because he wants more intimacy or more frequent sex, the conversation should be sought and possible causes investigated.
Sexual unwillingness has many reasons
The causes for a decrease in sexual desire are very different and can be physically as well as psychologically and emotionally justified. Often several factors come together and the exact cause is difficult to determine.
Deficiency of male hormones
It sounds paradoxical, but a lack of male hormones can lead to a decrease in sexual desire. Such a deficiency can be caused, for example, by taking the pill, since the ingredients it contains lead to an increased formation of SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin). This binds more testosterone, but only free testosterone stimulates pleasure. In menopausal women or after removal of the ovaries, a hormonal imbalance can also occur, which can, for example, lead to a decrease in libido.
Sexual unwillingness in women rarely has organic reasons. Nevertheless, some diseases of the abdomen can affect the sexual quality of Empﬁnden and, for example, cause pain during intercourse. Diabetes, kidney disease, heart disease, neurological diseases or depression can also lead to a decrease in libido.
Some drugs are known to have side effects that reduce the pleasure of the body, such as antihypertensives, sedatives, neuroleptics or antidepressants. In these cases, a change to a drug with fewer side effects should be considered in consultation with the doctor.
A person is not a machine and personally stressful situations or phases of upheaval can also inhibit desire. Many women feel stressed, for example after the birth of a child, and have little time for themselves apart from their job, family and household – this often means that desire falls by the wayside.
Last but not least, of course, problems in the partnership can also affect sexuality. Then it is important that the partners speak openly with each other and clearly address their wishes and fears.
Many causes are treatable
Many women don’t know that you don’t just have to accept a decrease in libido. In many cases the causes can be recognized and eliminated. The right contact person for this is the treating gynaecologist, family doctor or an appropriately trained sex therapist.
Finding the right solution
- Unfortunately, there is no patent remedy for the loss of pleasure, as the causes vary from woman to woman.
- In some cases it is necessary to treat the disease or to change medication or the pill.
- If the decrease in libido is due to other causes, the possible solutions range from hormone treatment and sexual therapy to taking herbal medicines.
If the listlessness is based on a hormonal deficiency or imbalance, this can be compensated with suitable preparations. Sexual therapy requires a little time and patience, but often leads to the development of new lust. Alone or together with the partner, causes and, above all, solutions are sought. Strategies are developed to deal with the situation and to find new ways to a fulfilled sexuality.
Herbal medicines can also help with decreasing sexual desire. The Damiana plant (Turnera diffusa) was already used by the Maya as a natural aphrodisiac.