Can the vagina be too narrow (for the penis)?

First of all: The vagina is not too narrow for the penis. If your partner has a large, thick penis, there are several things you can look out for so that sexual intercourse is fun for both of you and doesn’t hurt. Basically, each vagina is so stretchy that a baby’s head can go through it.

…but the muscles can tense involuntarily However, it can happen that your pelvic floor muscles tense to such an extent that attempts to have intercourse or introduce other things into the vagina are very painful or even impossible. This is called vaginal spasm or vaginismus. The musculature tensens involuntarily – without you consciously wanting to.

Causes of vaginismus

There are several reasons why this “closing” of the vaginal muscles can occur.

Fear of pregnancy

It may be that you are so afraid of pregnancy that the vagina will “close”. In this case you should insert fingers or objects into the vagina without any problems – only the penis does not go. The first thing that helps against this fear is that you are familiar with the effects of contraceptive methods and use a suitable contraceptive method that you trust. Please read our text about fear of pregnancy.

Cramping due to pain

It is possible that you experience pain during sexual intercourse. There can be different reasons for this, which you can read in this text. Pain causes muscles to tense, which is completely normal. But the tension makes it even more painful during sexual intercourse, and so the muscles tense even more… this can lead to the fact that they tense “precautionarily” before sexual intercourse takes place.

Unfamiliarity of the vagina

  • It is also possible that your vagina is not yet so familiar to you.
  • Think of it as a house: If you like to live in it, you will be happy about a visit and you will know where the visit is and that it will go again. If, on the other hand, you have no clear idea of what is behind the vaginal entrance, how big the vagina is and what it does when you are sexually aroused, you are unsure and – sensibly – keep the “front door” closed.
  • In other words, the pelvic floor muscles simply close – involuntarily, without your conscious intention.

Practice can fix the problem

Practicing helps against vaginismus. We have many practice tips that you can do on your own. If you have a partner, you can also follow these tips with your partner. When you practice, you actively support your sexual health.